So, you are alone, surrounded by dim lights, with some sexy downtempo music playing in the background, and your partner brings in the drinks. You talk for a while, and then a thought comes to mind. You take a short sip and kiss them immediately after. It hits differently. Intimacy, sensuality, sexuality, and pleasure are deeply intertwined, and food is a great means to enhance them all at the same time. Here are some sexy ideas for you to enjoy with your partner. 

The greatest things in life take time; it’s the same thing with mind-blowing sex. But what are you supposed to do? Tantic masters teach that foreplay should last around 45 minutes before penetration to build up more sensitivity, intimacy, and a deeper connection between the couple. Let’s take a look at some ideas on how to make it happen with the help of food.  

Start simple, ask for consent, and build from there

The idea of incorporating food into foreplay may sound intimidating or messy. Of course both things can happen if you want to turn your partner into a charcuterie table or cover them in fruit and whipped cream like a banana split —and, in this case, you should sit down and have a conversation about it outside the bedroom first— but if you start with something smaller, it doesn’t have to be an awkward conversation nor a messy circumstance. 

Try biting a piece of dark chocolate and sharing it in a kiss.

Drink wine, tequila, or whatever you like, and come close for a kiss. Enjoy the taste together. 

Grab a small piece of ice or fruit and bring it closer to their lips. Caress their mouth lightly, pull it back when they try to bite. 

These kinds of dynamics will help build tension, arousal, intimacy, and bring you both very intensely to being present —who on Earth would be able to think about paying the light bill with their partner’s mouth tented in chocolate, biting their lips?!

Also, something as simple as sharing a piece of chocolate can open up the conversation for other kinks, fantasies, or needs you may have.

There’s a vast world of food options for foreplay, explore what you both enjoy more

The options are endless. It’s a matter of pushing your imagination a bit and exploring what you like the most. 

Fruits like mango, banana, blueberries, or strawberries —Tip. If you are going for bigger fruits, like mango, you have two options: cut them into small pieces, so the moment won’t turn into a picnic, interrupted by your chewing, or pick the entire fruit and use it to show your partner how you would like to do oral sex to them. 

Chocolate or caramel syrup, whipped cream, or honey. Spread them bit by bit on different erogenous zones —as we have already seen, the entire human body is erogenous— either on your body or your partner’s, and lick them or, if you’re feeling more wild, spread them. You can later have a second round in the shower, cleaning all the sugar out. —Tip. If you’re going wild on the chocolate syrup, put a towel on the mattress first. 

Wine, tequila, whisky, whatever you like. How about tracing a liquor path on your partner’s chest and licking it? 

Ice! Tease your partner’s skin (and yours!) with a melting ice. Enjoy how they contain the reaction to the cold as the room’s temperature begins to change. Put the ice inside your mouth to cool it down before giving oral sex, caress their clavicle or neck with ice before licking it (which will produce a very arousing temperature contrast). 

Big dos and don’ts 

• Ask for consent. If your partner doesn’t like it or says no, that’s a full stop. Drop whatever you’re doing and check with them if they are ok. 
• DON’T put any food inside the vagina (or any other orifice). You’re not just very likely to hurt its delicate tissue but, especially, to cause an infection. Just don’t.  
• Have wipes or a towel in hand to clean up any undesired mess. No one wants to end up like a glazed donut or to sleep on sheets covered in cookie crumbles.